Before people get married or have children, they often ask others who have already done so what they think about their divorce in retrospect. Are they happy they got married? Are they glad they started a family? These are major life choices, and people really want to think about them before moving forward.
Divorce can be the same way. Generally, divorce means the relationship is over forever. You’re choosing a path that will impact the rest of your life. What do couples that have already done it think about their decisions to divorce?
A few observations from divorced couples
Obviously, everyone is going to have their own answer to that question, but here are a few ways that couples have described their feelings about divorce:
- Finally getting through the divorce and becoming single again provided an unprecedented sense of relief. This could mean they wanted it for a long time and just put off actually getting a divorce.
- Getting divorced can lead to expanding other friendships and relationships that you may not have had the time or energy for before, which can be very rewarding.
- Similarly, some single individuals loved that they suddenly had so much time they could spend on their own. They took up hobbies and enjoyed things that they never did with their spouse.
- In some cases, people found that they were better parents when they were single than they had ever been as a couple.
Again, every case is unique, but you can see that there are many positive sides to divorce. If you decide to split up, you need to understand your legal options. Speaking with an attorney is sometimes the best way to gain clarity about your situation and what you need to do.