Is it really time to ask for a divorce? This is a question people often find themselves asking with no clear answer. They don’t want to end their marriage as an overreaction to one event, but they also don’t want to stick around for years in a broken marriage and wind up regretting it.
How difficult it is to decide whether to divorce depends on a variety of factors. First and foremost is the issue that made you start thinking about it. If you caught your spouse having an affair, for instance, it may feel very clear instantly that you want to end the marriage. If you’re just frustrated that your spouse works too much and you’re drifting apart, though, it’s much harder to know what to do.
Do you want to stay married?
Clearly, this is a decision only you can make for yourself. One thing to think about as you do, though, is just how much of an effort both of you are putting in. Experts note that one of the clearest warning signs of divorce is when you and/or your spouse no longer want to put any effort in to the marriage. It means that you’ve mentally and emotionally moved beyond the relationship.
Are things ever going to change? If you’re unhappy and both of you aren’t committed to trying to change it, that could mean you only have one choice left.
When you do decide that it’s time to split up, make sure that you know what you want to take away from the marriage. An experienced family law attorney can help you work toward the settlement you’re looking for.